Why Forecasting Your Life Can Lead To Disappointment

A lot of us when growing up think by *insert mid/late 20s’ age* we’ll have our lives together. We’ll have a degree and/or masters, be married, homeowners with a great job and X amount of children. The dream is lavish. Ambitious. But sadly, rarely does it come true. For most of us, the early 20s are usually filled with education, mid 20s confusion and post-university struggle and late 20s newfound solidity and the beginnings of our purpose.

Sure, there’s that guy or girl you know or know of that drives a German whip with a 50k+ salary, property in Greenwich and a wonderful partner and family on the way. They’re great. They’re #goals. Unfortunately, they are the exception, not the rule.

The majority of 20 something’s are still trying to find our calling while working jobs they hate, desperately trying to fund their dreams to avoid Monday blues. Still learning to heal from past relationships while daydreaming about their perfect partner. Saving whatever they can each month in the hope of one day being on the property ladder.

I, myself are one of these individuals. By 25, I thought I’d be happily married with kids, living in a nice owner home with a great career. Boy did God have a laugh at my expense! I’m almost half way through my 28 years of life, and I just about know what I’m doing with my weekends, let alone know what I’m doing with my life.

The imaginary life I had created for myself is nowhere in sight, and to be honest; it took me awhile to come to terms with it. It’s only when I began to let go of my life expectation that I started to realise that life isn’t something you can dictate or control. Things take time and eventually, whether it’s a year, three, five or whatever, you will be where you need to be with whom you need to be with.

It’s easy to have expectations but far more difficult to know if they’ll actually manifest themselves. I’m not saying don’t set yourself goals or time specific targets. What I’m saying is, you shouldn’t set age-specific targets. It’ll only lead to you feeling lost because you’re not where you thought you’d be in life.

Here are some takeaways about setting life forecasts:

  1. Plan and prepare ahead but always be prepared for change – God has a habit of rearranging your life.
  2. Remain patient while focused; you’re time will arrive.
  3. Only be in competition with yourself, not other people – we all reach our purpose at different ages and stages.
  4. Your goals may be the same as someone else’s but your paths will be very different.
  5. Don’t be too harsh on yourself when you’re where you thought you’d be at a certain age – greatness takes time to manifest.

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P.S. No matter what you’re going through, remember #YouCanGetThroughThis.

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    June 26, 2016 at 8:56 pm

    I couldn’t agree more, I think once you reach your mid-twenties you have a better understanding of life and become more comfortable with the journey. I think we all experience/have experienced the ‘by thirty’ syndrome.

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    July 4, 2016 at 7:20 pm

    Another excellent post. I totally agree. Now that I am in my early thirties I have found my footing (so to speak). There is nothing wrong with having dreams and aspirations but nothing worth having comes easy – all in divine timing

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    July 5, 2016 at 7:50 am

    I also thought that by 25 I would be a homeowner, married with children. I’m on the way there. But homeowner looks a long way off! But I totally agree with not setting age specific goals. Everyone’s journey is different!
    Nice post

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    July 11, 2016 at 6:51 pm

    I had most of that by 25 and it was a façade because I was aiming for ticking boxes for my goals career, husband, house, car without realising that actually it was the wrong person. Early 30s now, starting everything all over and it means so much more now.

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    Annika Spalding
    July 27, 2016 at 5:14 pm

    Yes! Life doesn’t work out in the way we expect it to, no matter how great our plans are. We have to be open to change because it’s the one thing we are guaranteed in life and will force us to grow in ways a stagnant life wouldn’t. Great post!

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